The importance of social status in online dating is talked about very much in the pick up artist communities. It's about conveying your value in a way. How many friends you have, your career, your car, your house and how many women you can get.
I am a real woman and I run an online dating community for women. We do care about social status. For example, one woman made the observation today that a man texted her at 2 pm to say he had just gotten out of bed. This did nothing for his social status. She immediately thought of him as lazy and a loser. It didn't help that he also included he was thinking about her. He screwed up with that one little sentence and blew his chances. Didn't matter how much he was thinking about her, she now saw him as lazy.
The pick up communities will tell you to include picture of you with women in your profile. This is about the worst advice they could possible give. It's just stupid. Do you want to see us in pics with hot men hanging all over us. Does that make you want to mail us and get to know us or does it put questions in your mind that the answers wouldn't be very conducive to a relationship. If a hook up is all you are after, then go for it. From my experience though, guys really are searching for a special girl.
Just putting your social status out there on your profile in excess is like waiving a flag and saying pick me, pick me. If you have a nice car or a Harley, well save it and share these things in your emails in a humble graceful way. The shallow gold diggers may jump all over you with those blatant displays of social status, but a quality woman will pass you by. We do place value in social status, but trust me, if you can command the English Language and compose an email that gets us excited about you, it will go so much further. You social status will become the icing on the cake.
My most memorable online relationship had a high social status, yet none of that was in his profile. He dropped it in emails. He had a jeep,a Wrangler,the one that the top comes off of. He didn't come out and tell me. He just added it in a sentence that his jeep was taking him as fast as it would go. What did I do then? I asked him what kind of jeep and there was his opportunity to reveal his social status of fun and adventurous.
He went on vacation shortly after we met online. He didn't brag about where he was going, just sent me an email stating that he would be out of touch, he was going on vacation and would mail me upon his return. This again prompted me to ask. He replied "Fiji for 7 days". Again, confirming his social status.
I think the gurus do have some excellent advice, especially for guys that struggle with online dating and fear of rejection. I do think that social status means something to us gals. I don't think they quite have the delivery down right though of this social status. We like mystery. Less is more.
You can learn what works to get girls on dating sites like plenty of fish. If you aren't having much luck, you may want to try something different.
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Wednesday, November 9, 2011
Tuesday, November 8, 2011
Emails to Capture Her Attention On Plenty of Fish
I am not going to beat around the bush here. Your emails are either making or breaking you on plenty of fish. If you want to capture the attention girls on plenty of fish you have got to stand out. I was on plenty of fish for a long time and this really shouldn't be that hard to do. Most of the emails guys send there are about the same. They are dull, thoughtless and do nothing much to get a woman interested, let alone build up some attraction.
If you don't think you can build attraction in an email prior to even meeting you are mistaken. I run an online community of women and let me tell you, it's common for a grown woman to feel as if she is already in love long before she meets the man. It happens often and it has happened to me. These men have a natural way of getting us excited. Let me give you a few examples.
I was mailing a guy on there, the one that stood out and in his emails, he would start his first sentence in the subject line. Things like, I was thinking...., or when you....., last night I had a dream about.... You get the point. I would read the subject line and my mind would wonder before I opened the mail. He would engage my imagination. Women fall in love in the imagination by the way.
These subject lines became triggers. In other words, everytime I would open my mail, I began to look forward to his. The subject line was intriguing and the email became a trigger that was warm and fuzzy. The warm and fuzzy transferred over to being associated with him.
Another thing he did was he would never brag about his status. If you have done any research into the pick up artist communities, they talk about the importance of status. He didn't tell me he drove a jeep, which by the way is a status symbol for fun and adventurous. He would just mention it in a sentence such as, I was going as fast as my jeep would go. He didn't come off as arrogant, more humble, yet his status was not missed.
A lot of men on dating sites tell us too much too fast. Less really is more. We love mystery. The mystery comes in not what you say, but what you don't.
If you aren't getting your emails answered or aren't getting a lot of attention online dating sites like plenty of fish, you really should check into improving and learning about the online game. Women respond to words and emotions.
Before you hit the send button on your plenty of fish email, ask yourself what emotion will she feel. These guys that hook the girls on plenty of fish build up emotional attraction with women, they know what to say, when to say it and how to say it.
The guy by the way that hooked me on plenty of fish was ordinary, not a guy I would have even looked twice at. He would not turn my head, quite the opposite, I wouldn't even notice him. Didn't matter. He had me from the first email.
How to get women on plenty of fish here!
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If you don't think you can build attraction in an email prior to even meeting you are mistaken. I run an online community of women and let me tell you, it's common for a grown woman to feel as if she is already in love long before she meets the man. It happens often and it has happened to me. These men have a natural way of getting us excited. Let me give you a few examples.
I was mailing a guy on there, the one that stood out and in his emails, he would start his first sentence in the subject line. Things like, I was thinking...., or when you....., last night I had a dream about.... You get the point. I would read the subject line and my mind would wonder before I opened the mail. He would engage my imagination. Women fall in love in the imagination by the way.
These subject lines became triggers. In other words, everytime I would open my mail, I began to look forward to his. The subject line was intriguing and the email became a trigger that was warm and fuzzy. The warm and fuzzy transferred over to being associated with him.
Another thing he did was he would never brag about his status. If you have done any research into the pick up artist communities, they talk about the importance of status. He didn't tell me he drove a jeep, which by the way is a status symbol for fun and adventurous. He would just mention it in a sentence such as, I was going as fast as my jeep would go. He didn't come off as arrogant, more humble, yet his status was not missed.
A lot of men on dating sites tell us too much too fast. Less really is more. We love mystery. The mystery comes in not what you say, but what you don't.
If you aren't getting your emails answered or aren't getting a lot of attention online dating sites like plenty of fish, you really should check into improving and learning about the online game. Women respond to words and emotions.
Before you hit the send button on your plenty of fish email, ask yourself what emotion will she feel. These guys that hook the girls on plenty of fish build up emotional attraction with women, they know what to say, when to say it and how to say it.
The guy by the way that hooked me on plenty of fish was ordinary, not a guy I would have even looked twice at. He would not turn my head, quite the opposite, I wouldn't even notice him. Didn't matter. He had me from the first email.
How to get women on plenty of fish here!
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Tuesday, October 4, 2011
How To Start A Text Conversation With A Girl
Texting first and foremost also includes emailing as in on a dating site. Keep this in mind while reading this article. The texting/email game is a huge part of online dating for men. It's your most important tool, perfect it, learn it, use it, practice it.
If you are reading this, then obviously you want to stand out above the other guys texting girls. Good for you! It's easy to start a conversation with a girl. It's not so easy to send that first attention grabbing text to a girl though. I mean there are tons of guys out there that send the "Good Morning" text message. Most of us women can't even count how many of those we get. Nothing at all special about that and not many ways to reply to that.
Of course you could add beautiful or sexy to this "Good Morning" text message. Shiver. We get a lot of that too. It's nothing special. Sure it's nice you are thinking about us, but that text will not really stand out at all. If you are going to text us good morning at least be creative in the nickname you put at the end of it and forget the beautiful and sexy.
I dated a King Texter once. He would always pick up something that we had shared previously and play off of that. It made me feel connected. It told me he was paying attention. It escalated my attraction for him. One night we were talking about at topic that I knew nothing about and he knew a lot. He said that night to me, "Stick with me grasshopper, you will go far", in a joking manner. The next morning yes I got the "Good Morning" text, but it said "Good Morning Grasshopper". Made all the difference in the world.
When you start a text conversation with a girl, you want to make her feel connected. You want to play off of a previous experience. This gives her a warm fuzzy feeling. That is the great thing about texting. You have time to plot and plan what you are going to say. Think about the last time you were together or the last time you talked and remember something that made her laugh. Take that something and turn it into a clever text. The more you do this, the better you get at it. It's how you become a natural, by practice and planning.
Forget the how is your day, or I hope you have a good day crap when you start a text conversation with a girl. That's just plain boring and dull and does nothing to escalate attraction. Weave the memories no matter how few into your texts when you start a text conversation with a girl. This creates more memories which means you get even more material to start text conversations in the future.
Texting girls is your best dating tool ever. There is no better tool to escalate attraction in the girls you like. It pays to learn fun and flirty texting techniques to get the most out of this tool.
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If you are reading this, then obviously you want to stand out above the other guys texting girls. Good for you! It's easy to start a conversation with a girl. It's not so easy to send that first attention grabbing text to a girl though. I mean there are tons of guys out there that send the "Good Morning" text message. Most of us women can't even count how many of those we get. Nothing at all special about that and not many ways to reply to that.
Of course you could add beautiful or sexy to this "Good Morning" text message. Shiver. We get a lot of that too. It's nothing special. Sure it's nice you are thinking about us, but that text will not really stand out at all. If you are going to text us good morning at least be creative in the nickname you put at the end of it and forget the beautiful and sexy.
I dated a King Texter once. He would always pick up something that we had shared previously and play off of that. It made me feel connected. It told me he was paying attention. It escalated my attraction for him. One night we were talking about at topic that I knew nothing about and he knew a lot. He said that night to me, "Stick with me grasshopper, you will go far", in a joking manner. The next morning yes I got the "Good Morning" text, but it said "Good Morning Grasshopper". Made all the difference in the world.
When you start a text conversation with a girl, you want to make her feel connected. You want to play off of a previous experience. This gives her a warm fuzzy feeling. That is the great thing about texting. You have time to plot and plan what you are going to say. Think about the last time you were together or the last time you talked and remember something that made her laugh. Take that something and turn it into a clever text. The more you do this, the better you get at it. It's how you become a natural, by practice and planning.
Forget the how is your day, or I hope you have a good day crap when you start a text conversation with a girl. That's just plain boring and dull and does nothing to escalate attraction. Weave the memories no matter how few into your texts when you start a text conversation with a girl. This creates more memories which means you get even more material to start text conversations in the future.
Texting girls is your best dating tool ever. There is no better tool to escalate attraction in the girls you like. It pays to learn fun and flirty texting techniques to get the most out of this tool.
Click Here to get over 101 proven flirty text messages
Click Here to discover how to have 7 Dates or more this month with attractive women
Wednesday, June 29, 2011
How to Write an Online Dating Profile to Attract More Women
To attract more women online, you have to step outside of your reality. If you are focusing on what you want, that's all fine and well. After all this is about you. However, to be successful online dating, you need to focus on what women want and what they look for online. Step outside of your reality and understand hers. It would be nice if she would do the same, but you as the male after all are the pursuer. It's your job.
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First understand how women create their profiles. It's like they are going to a ball or the prom. They put lots of time into it. They send pics off to friends to get opinions on which ones should be posted. They spend hours writing it, at least most do. They dress it all up.
Men toss a few things up there as a rule, some even say mail me if you want to know more. What a let down. Even if you sent a half interesting email and a woman clicks on your profile and sees this, she will click off and most likely not answer. If she is attractive, you can bet she has about 30 more emails and profiles to sort through just as disappointing.
Women are waiting. They are waiting for that one guy to stand out. They are waiting for that one guy that has a great profile and can compose a few really good sentences. They are waiting for that one guy that stands out among all those same ole emails and profiles.
If you have in your profile all of your wonderful characteristics such as honesty, loyalty, loving, compassionate blah blah blah, take it out. They all say that. You won't stand out with these attributes even if they are important.
So what I am saying here is a good profile is something she strives for so to stand out you have to give her what she values, which is a good profile.
When writing your profile, make sure you feel good. Do it when you are at your best. Maybe after you have had some fun with the guys, maybe after a good work out at the gym. If you feel good it will reflect in your words. Put on some up beat music while you are writing it. Sounds crazy I know but it helps a lot.
Be creative, use words that paint pictures. Adjectives. Don't give out your whole life or write a book. Focus in on a few key points or things that make you interesting. What is the coolest thing about you?
Have a few good photos up. Profiles with photos get over 50% more activity. Leave your shirt on unless you are out on a boat or something. If you have a pic of you shirtless in front of a bathroom mirror remove it now!!!!!
The thing that keeps women interested is more of what they don't know about you than what they do. So if in describing what you do for a living for example don't actually tell it, but describe what you do. I am a writer. My profile does not say I am a writer. It says I earn my living with words, with a few more details.
Women love mystery. Lay the groundwork in your profile and follow up with a great email and your chances online will improve. If you need help with your profile you can get it here. Profile Help 911. Yes it is on a women's website, but who better than a woman to help you get it right. I know what we want. Or you can mail me at yahoo, robinincarolina.
Click Here to discover how to have 7 Dates or more this month with attractive women
Click Here to discover how to have 7 Dates or more this month with attractive women
First understand how women create their profiles. It's like they are going to a ball or the prom. They put lots of time into it. They send pics off to friends to get opinions on which ones should be posted. They spend hours writing it, at least most do. They dress it all up.
Men toss a few things up there as a rule, some even say mail me if you want to know more. What a let down. Even if you sent a half interesting email and a woman clicks on your profile and sees this, she will click off and most likely not answer. If she is attractive, you can bet she has about 30 more emails and profiles to sort through just as disappointing.
Women are waiting. They are waiting for that one guy to stand out. They are waiting for that one guy that has a great profile and can compose a few really good sentences. They are waiting for that one guy that stands out among all those same ole emails and profiles.
If you have in your profile all of your wonderful characteristics such as honesty, loyalty, loving, compassionate blah blah blah, take it out. They all say that. You won't stand out with these attributes even if they are important.
So what I am saying here is a good profile is something she strives for so to stand out you have to give her what she values, which is a good profile.
When writing your profile, make sure you feel good. Do it when you are at your best. Maybe after you have had some fun with the guys, maybe after a good work out at the gym. If you feel good it will reflect in your words. Put on some up beat music while you are writing it. Sounds crazy I know but it helps a lot.
Be creative, use words that paint pictures. Adjectives. Don't give out your whole life or write a book. Focus in on a few key points or things that make you interesting. What is the coolest thing about you?
Have a few good photos up. Profiles with photos get over 50% more activity. Leave your shirt on unless you are out on a boat or something. If you have a pic of you shirtless in front of a bathroom mirror remove it now!!!!!
The thing that keeps women interested is more of what they don't know about you than what they do. So if in describing what you do for a living for example don't actually tell it, but describe what you do. I am a writer. My profile does not say I am a writer. It says I earn my living with words, with a few more details.
Women love mystery. Lay the groundwork in your profile and follow up with a great email and your chances online will improve. If you need help with your profile you can get it here. Profile Help 911. Yes it is on a women's website, but who better than a woman to help you get it right. I know what we want. Or you can mail me at yahoo, robinincarolina.
Click Here to discover how to have 7 Dates or more this month with attractive women
Tuesday, June 28, 2011
10 Online Dating Email Tips for Men
Online Dating is the best way to meet women. Unfortunately a lot of men struggle with it. They get rejected, they get women who flake, and some never get mailed or answered at all. A lot of the issue may be with your profile, but the way and what you email is where you can spark or kill an attraction. Which one are you doing? Do you even know?
1. Send shorter emails. No Novels please. Enough to get her curious. The first email should only be a few sentences. Max 5. More than that and you are the eager beaver
2. First email mention something about her profile. We really like it when you actually read it.
3. Be flirty and playful, not all stuffy, but do not mention sex at all, unless that is all you are after with which I wish you luck.
4. Email her once, if she doesn't answer, don't mail her back again. If you are really set on her, wait at least 45 days to mail again. You are not desperate. Women can pick up on desperate from miles away.
5. Wait between emailing women online. Don't answer her within minutes. Set a time everyday to open and answer emails if possible. This will help you keep some control. If you aren't online, you can't see the hottie or not so hottie that emailed you.
6. Answer all emails, even the less desirable ones. Be nice, no need to be rude. You can say thanks but no thanks or you can opt to perhaps make a new friend. Either way, the more women you communicate with, the better you get at it. It's practice. Also those polite no thank yous practice will likely come in handy when you finally do meet a nice girl that you just don't click with.
7. Keep away from personal and serious subjects. Only mail about light subjects, be witty, be real. No ex talk, no kid talk.
8. Paint a picture when you can as early as possible in her mind of the two of you together. This means using "we" instead of 'I". Women connect emotionally and you can start working this in the first emails.
9. Always include a subject line and change it up, be unpredictable.
10. Move out of pen pal status within 2 weeks. Use email to establish comfort, trust, and emotional attraction. Email a proposed date and move her to phone.
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Your first date will be much more successful if you can build her interest and attraction before it even happens. This is done in the first few emails. Some say to email once or twice, make the date and be done with it. See if it's there or if it's not. I say no, keep her on the line for a couple weeks building the attraction and anticipation. Even if she isn't Ms. Right, you are getting some great practice and get better and better at it. The better you are at something the more confident you become in it. Make sense?
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1. Send shorter emails. No Novels please. Enough to get her curious. The first email should only be a few sentences. Max 5. More than that and you are the eager beaver
2. First email mention something about her profile. We really like it when you actually read it.
3. Be flirty and playful, not all stuffy, but do not mention sex at all, unless that is all you are after with which I wish you luck.
4. Email her once, if she doesn't answer, don't mail her back again. If you are really set on her, wait at least 45 days to mail again. You are not desperate. Women can pick up on desperate from miles away.
5. Wait between emailing women online. Don't answer her within minutes. Set a time everyday to open and answer emails if possible. This will help you keep some control. If you aren't online, you can't see the hottie or not so hottie that emailed you.
6. Answer all emails, even the less desirable ones. Be nice, no need to be rude. You can say thanks but no thanks or you can opt to perhaps make a new friend. Either way, the more women you communicate with, the better you get at it. It's practice. Also those polite no thank yous practice will likely come in handy when you finally do meet a nice girl that you just don't click with.
7. Keep away from personal and serious subjects. Only mail about light subjects, be witty, be real. No ex talk, no kid talk.
8. Paint a picture when you can as early as possible in her mind of the two of you together. This means using "we" instead of 'I". Women connect emotionally and you can start working this in the first emails.
9. Always include a subject line and change it up, be unpredictable.
10. Move out of pen pal status within 2 weeks. Use email to establish comfort, trust, and emotional attraction. Email a proposed date and move her to phone.
Click Here to discover how to have 7 Dates or more this month with attractive women
Your first date will be much more successful if you can build her interest and attraction before it even happens. This is done in the first few emails. Some say to email once or twice, make the date and be done with it. See if it's there or if it's not. I say no, keep her on the line for a couple weeks building the attraction and anticipation. Even if she isn't Ms. Right, you are getting some great practice and get better and better at it. The better you are at something the more confident you become in it. Make sense?
Click Here to discover how to have 7 Dates or more this month with attractive women
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Wednesday, March 30, 2011
Men Online Dating Must Persist
If I had any one piece of advice for men online dating, it would be to keep at it, don't give up. Online dating for men or women for that matter is a numbers game. I know you have heart this before, but seriously do you really accept it? Do you get frustrated by the flaky women, the ones who disappear, won't meet you or are just down right rude? It's going to happen, even the 10s online get rejected, we all do.
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That being said if you are a man online dating, you need some thick skin. Forget about the flakes, just say next and keep going. You don't honestly think you are going to find her in the first week or even month or so do you? I mean some do, but it's rare. It takes patience and skill.
I have a friend who went on 42 first dates before he found the one. That's a lot of dates and this was over 8 months time. He didn't give up. He would broaden his search and started going out with girls he usually wouldn't consider. Turns out one of these girls was the one. They are still going hot and heavy.
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It does help a lot if you know what you are doing though. A good profile, knowing what to write in that first email is huge. These two things alone if done right can escalate your success.
So many profiles are the same, so emails say the same thing. Let me tell you as women are looking for. It's simple. A connection. We are looking for that one guy who stands out above all the rest and it has nothing to do with his looks.
Any female that has been online dating for a couple months is frustrated just like you. Trust me. The quality women actually remain on dating sites longer because of their unwillingness to settle. They go on date after date and just get bored. The quality women are waiting for that guy who stands out and gets how to make a connections and build up attraction.
If you don't think you can build connections or attraction online via emails, you are very very mistaken.
Click Here to discover how to have 7 Dates or more this month with attractive women
Click Here to discover how to have 7 Dates or more this month with attractive women
That being said if you are a man online dating, you need some thick skin. Forget about the flakes, just say next and keep going. You don't honestly think you are going to find her in the first week or even month or so do you? I mean some do, but it's rare. It takes patience and skill.
I have a friend who went on 42 first dates before he found the one. That's a lot of dates and this was over 8 months time. He didn't give up. He would broaden his search and started going out with girls he usually wouldn't consider. Turns out one of these girls was the one. They are still going hot and heavy.
Click Here to discover how to have 7 Dates or more this month with attractive women
It does help a lot if you know what you are doing though. A good profile, knowing what to write in that first email is huge. These two things alone if done right can escalate your success.
So many profiles are the same, so emails say the same thing. Let me tell you as women are looking for. It's simple. A connection. We are looking for that one guy who stands out above all the rest and it has nothing to do with his looks.
Any female that has been online dating for a couple months is frustrated just like you. Trust me. The quality women actually remain on dating sites longer because of their unwillingness to settle. They go on date after date and just get bored. The quality women are waiting for that guy who stands out and gets how to make a connections and build up attraction.
If you don't think you can build connections or attraction online via emails, you are very very mistaken.
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Tuesday, March 1, 2011
Subject Line In That First Email Online
This one little tip can drastically increase your success rate dating women online. It's simple but effective. Women dating online, especially the more attractive ones, the 8s, 9s, and 10s get a lot of mail. Let me tell you, they all say the same thing. "Hey", "Hey Sexy" or blah blah blah. Makes our heart just sink when we open our inbox. We think, oh no, not another same ole same ole. Am I not worth a little effort really? It is so discouraging.
So that being said, make your subject line interesting. Be creative. Stand out, be different. I mean when I open my inbox and something is different, you can bet I skip over all of the others and go to that one email that appears some effort was put in. Need I mention this is also her first impression.
Women are emotional creatures. Here are just a few of many examples I could give you with the subject line, you fill in the rest.
I was imagining....
Wondering.....
I was thinking....
On my way......
You get the idea. Another idea is to start your first sentence in your email in your subject line. Example: Subject line says, While I was reading your profile, then you finish the sentence in your email.
Change the subject line with every email. This builds anticipation in her. She learns to associate anticipation to you, which starts attraction building in her mind.
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It's simple, but very effective, try it.
Click Here to discover how to have 7 Dates or more this month with attractive women
So that being said, make your subject line interesting. Be creative. Stand out, be different. I mean when I open my inbox and something is different, you can bet I skip over all of the others and go to that one email that appears some effort was put in. Need I mention this is also her first impression.
Women are emotional creatures. Here are just a few of many examples I could give you with the subject line, you fill in the rest.
I was imagining....
Wondering.....
I was thinking....
On my way......
You get the idea. Another idea is to start your first sentence in your email in your subject line. Example: Subject line says, While I was reading your profile, then you finish the sentence in your email.
Change the subject line with every email. This builds anticipation in her. She learns to associate anticipation to you, which starts attraction building in her mind.
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It's simple, but very effective, try it.
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