The importance of social status in online dating is talked about very much in the pick up artist communities. It's about conveying your value in a way. How many friends you have, your career, your car, your house and how many women you can get.
I am a real woman and I run an online dating community for women. We do care about social status. For example, one woman made the observation today that a man texted her at 2 pm to say he had just gotten out of bed. This did nothing for his social status. She immediately thought of him as lazy and a loser. It didn't help that he also included he was thinking about her. He screwed up with that one little sentence and blew his chances. Didn't matter how much he was thinking about her, she now saw him as lazy.
The pick up communities will tell you to include picture of you with women in your profile. This is about the worst advice they could possible give. It's just stupid. Do you want to see us in pics with hot men hanging all over us. Does that make you want to mail us and get to know us or does it put questions in your mind that the answers wouldn't be very conducive to a relationship. If a hook up is all you are after, then go for it. From my experience though, guys really are searching for a special girl.
Just putting your social status out there on your profile in excess is like waiving a flag and saying pick me, pick me. If you have a nice car or a Harley, well save it and share these things in your emails in a humble graceful way. The shallow gold diggers may jump all over you with those blatant displays of social status, but a quality woman will pass you by. We do place value in social status, but trust me, if you can command the English Language and compose an email that gets us excited about you, it will go so much further. You social status will become the icing on the cake.
My most memorable online relationship had a high social status, yet none of that was in his profile. He dropped it in emails. He had a jeep,a Wrangler,the one that the top comes off of. He didn't come out and tell me. He just added it in a sentence that his jeep was taking him as fast as it would go. What did I do then? I asked him what kind of jeep and there was his opportunity to reveal his social status of fun and adventurous.
He went on vacation shortly after we met online. He didn't brag about where he was going, just sent me an email stating that he would be out of touch, he was going on vacation and would mail me upon his return. This again prompted me to ask. He replied "Fiji for 7 days". Again, confirming his social status.
I think the gurus do have some excellent advice, especially for guys that struggle with online dating and fear of rejection. I do think that social status means something to us gals. I don't think they quite have the delivery down right though of this social status. We like mystery. Less is more.
You can learn what works to get girls on dating sites like plenty of fish. If you aren't having much luck, you may want to try something different.
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Wednesday, November 9, 2011
Tuesday, November 8, 2011
Emails to Capture Her Attention On Plenty of Fish
I am not going to beat around the bush here. Your emails are either making or breaking you on plenty of fish. If you want to capture the attention girls on plenty of fish you have got to stand out. I was on plenty of fish for a long time and this really shouldn't be that hard to do. Most of the emails guys send there are about the same. They are dull, thoughtless and do nothing much to get a woman interested, let alone build up some attraction.
If you don't think you can build attraction in an email prior to even meeting you are mistaken. I run an online community of women and let me tell you, it's common for a grown woman to feel as if she is already in love long before she meets the man. It happens often and it has happened to me. These men have a natural way of getting us excited. Let me give you a few examples.
I was mailing a guy on there, the one that stood out and in his emails, he would start his first sentence in the subject line. Things like, I was thinking...., or when you....., last night I had a dream about.... You get the point. I would read the subject line and my mind would wonder before I opened the mail. He would engage my imagination. Women fall in love in the imagination by the way.
These subject lines became triggers. In other words, everytime I would open my mail, I began to look forward to his. The subject line was intriguing and the email became a trigger that was warm and fuzzy. The warm and fuzzy transferred over to being associated with him.
Another thing he did was he would never brag about his status. If you have done any research into the pick up artist communities, they talk about the importance of status. He didn't tell me he drove a jeep, which by the way is a status symbol for fun and adventurous. He would just mention it in a sentence such as, I was going as fast as my jeep would go. He didn't come off as arrogant, more humble, yet his status was not missed.
A lot of men on dating sites tell us too much too fast. Less really is more. We love mystery. The mystery comes in not what you say, but what you don't.
If you aren't getting your emails answered or aren't getting a lot of attention online dating sites like plenty of fish, you really should check into improving and learning about the online game. Women respond to words and emotions.
Before you hit the send button on your plenty of fish email, ask yourself what emotion will she feel. These guys that hook the girls on plenty of fish build up emotional attraction with women, they know what to say, when to say it and how to say it.
The guy by the way that hooked me on plenty of fish was ordinary, not a guy I would have even looked twice at. He would not turn my head, quite the opposite, I wouldn't even notice him. Didn't matter. He had me from the first email.
How to get women on plenty of fish here!
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If you don't think you can build attraction in an email prior to even meeting you are mistaken. I run an online community of women and let me tell you, it's common for a grown woman to feel as if she is already in love long before she meets the man. It happens often and it has happened to me. These men have a natural way of getting us excited. Let me give you a few examples.
I was mailing a guy on there, the one that stood out and in his emails, he would start his first sentence in the subject line. Things like, I was thinking...., or when you....., last night I had a dream about.... You get the point. I would read the subject line and my mind would wonder before I opened the mail. He would engage my imagination. Women fall in love in the imagination by the way.
These subject lines became triggers. In other words, everytime I would open my mail, I began to look forward to his. The subject line was intriguing and the email became a trigger that was warm and fuzzy. The warm and fuzzy transferred over to being associated with him.
Another thing he did was he would never brag about his status. If you have done any research into the pick up artist communities, they talk about the importance of status. He didn't tell me he drove a jeep, which by the way is a status symbol for fun and adventurous. He would just mention it in a sentence such as, I was going as fast as my jeep would go. He didn't come off as arrogant, more humble, yet his status was not missed.
A lot of men on dating sites tell us too much too fast. Less really is more. We love mystery. The mystery comes in not what you say, but what you don't.
If you aren't getting your emails answered or aren't getting a lot of attention online dating sites like plenty of fish, you really should check into improving and learning about the online game. Women respond to words and emotions.
Before you hit the send button on your plenty of fish email, ask yourself what emotion will she feel. These guys that hook the girls on plenty of fish build up emotional attraction with women, they know what to say, when to say it and how to say it.
The guy by the way that hooked me on plenty of fish was ordinary, not a guy I would have even looked twice at. He would not turn my head, quite the opposite, I wouldn't even notice him. Didn't matter. He had me from the first email.
How to get women on plenty of fish here!
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